If you're a woman who finds climaxing easy and can have orgasms during intercourse with little effort — even in a position where it's difficult for your partner to access the clitoris with the fingertips — then you are very lucky indeed! For the majority of us, 'ringing that bell' is not nearly so simple. Even women who can masturbate to a climax with no difficulty can feel quite anxious about 'coming' with a male partner. This doesn't seem fair, because apart from the small minority of men who have psychological difficulties with sex and who cannot relax enough to ejaculate into their partner delayed ejaculation , most males have no problem at all in climaxing during sexual intercourse. But of course, in a man, the penis is the pleasure-provider.
Never Had an Orgasm? Here's How to Give Yourself a Giant O
Orgasm guide for women: how to reach orgasm
Movies make having orgasms seem so easy, like I just had one. There goes another one! But in reality, it's rarely that simple—in fact, if you find yourself wondering exactly how to have an orgasm, feel no shame. For many women, having an orgasm requires a perfect storm of factors: concentration, trust, lubrication, some strange faces, maybe a vibrator, and more than a little luck. But there are plenty of things you can do to help push your pleasure over the edge.
9 Tips for How to Have an Orgasm
But they exist, and with a little awareness and attention, you can get the Os you deserve, from the fireworks-on-display kind to the calm oh-my-gods. When you find yourself missing out on the Big O, there are three likely culprits: expectations, communication, and method. And alongside all of that, experimenting is required. The clitoris is a small organ with a lot of nerve endings that peeks out from the tiptop of the vulva, is often covered by a hood, and extends down the inside of the labia.
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